Girls Night

I read an article the other day, stating that all women should go out with their girlfriends twice a week. As I read that I laughed. Like who has that kind of time…the only reason I get to go out with my husband once a week is because we work together and we happen to own the business…so Thursday Night is normally date night!❤️❤️❤️

Then, I started reading the comments for the article…and I got really….really depressed. Most of the women agreed with me…that that was excessive…and lives are just to busy…but the majority of the read was women who said…they had no friends☹️.

I’ve said this a million times…and I include myself…I’m not for one second…stating I’m any better. I’m trying to make appointments with two friends right now for breakfast on a Saturday and so far…both of us are booked until March? How is that even possible? Then I realized, I’m one of the lucky ones…I at least have people that I call my friend (and I hope they do me, or why are we going to lunch?)

If your a Mom in your 40s….your over it. You have gone to the mommy and me classes, the school Mom, the soccer Mom, the dance mom, the swim Mom, the Scout Mom, the private school, the public school, the homeschool Mom (and I have been all these things) your just done.

For starters, I gave my kids goldfish crackers, we occasionally went to McDonalds but I preferred Chic Fil A. We are not involved in any sport right now with balls and I canNOT even tell you how happy that makes me. We use EO but my kids are all vaccinated. We go to a massage therapist, a natural chiropractor and a MD….you could say I dabble in all sorts of things and I’m good with that. I also breast fed my children but not for a whole year…not one of them…one of them had terrible allergies but grew out of all of them at age 9…the other one has to get an allergy shot every year in the spring. He also doesn’t do well with a lot of dairy. I’m sure it’s all my fault. I breast fed in private, not out in front of the whole world…that’s just me…but do what you want…but some of you are out of control. I also didn’t enjoy it…my kids were both noisy and loud…and it was painful…and I endured it…but it was not at all this amazing experience. I found that when they had a bottle and their bellies were full and they were not gassy, is when both of my babies were the happiest. I also didn’t “wear” my baby…but no one did…so this was completely new to me.

We don’t eat a lot of red meat…I prefer turkey or chicken…but I did just purchase half a cow that I will then split with my parents and we will probably make that last over a year. We try to eat healthy and I even drink Kombucha, but there is pop in our house for Friday nights and ice cream to. I use natural cleaners in my house…but during flu season I do enjoy a Clorox wipe. I’m a hand sanitizer crazy person and I will spray your kids down if they are with me for the day. I do shop at Target, I detest Walmart and convulse if I have to go there (unless my husband is with me then I behave). I now shop online and do pickup at any store that offers it…because I’m trying to not buy things on impulse and I don’t want to hear your child scream, or watch you pay for things with a million coupons or gift cards.

I also allow my children to watch and read Harry Potter…and I used to be uptight about it…and then…I just wasn’t anymore.

My point??? Because I’m pretty sure that when several of you read my thoughts on how I raised my children…you all had your ideas on what I did wrong and what I did right…the difference with me??? At 44, I really truly do not care anymore….but that’s exactly why most of us find ourselves without friends.

There used to be some girls that would watch my stories on Instagram…but they didn’t follow me…they would purposely watch what I was doing so that they could make fun of me? Why waste your time? Why? But it happens everyday….everywhere….and we as women…just keep pulling into our garages, closing the door and pulling the shades.

We post pictures of our trips…and we are met with comments of…”It must be nice” said so hatefully that you want to just hit delete. You get a new car…and people comment how they wish they could afford that. You move into a new house…and people want to know who your stealing from.😱

Every time I post a picture…I wonder how it’s going to be taken. When I tweet, post something on Facebook….hardly use snapchat anymore… and some days…I will delete all Instagram stories. Some days I unfollow accounts with people who are gorgeous…why? I can’t follow an account with beautiful people…because they makes me ugly or something?

Why do we as women sit around and speak so hatefully of each other . Recently, my son got a position at the university he attends. Most people were very sweet and knew how grateful we were for it because it would eliminate a great deal of financial worry…but the parents started rolling in comments about the kids who had received these positions….it was because all these kids knew someone important they said…or were wealthy, or had some special kickback…I assure you, we have none of those things.

Until we as women…put our claws back where they came from…nothing is ever going to change…we are never going to be able to enjoy the company of one another…because we are so busy talking about each other.

Why can’t we support one another? Be happy for another’s success? Encourage a new mom instead of giving her the gory details of childbirth…she will get through it just like we did…just nod at her…and tel her how amazing holding your baby was for the first time…leave all that other crap out…she will know soon enough all about it.

For those of you who enjoy going into other peoples social media and making fun of people…can I just say…first of all…how much time do you have on your hands? Second, perhaps you should look into doing something useful…instead of something hateful . We as women are amazing people…let’s encourage one another to be amazing…and clap for those who actually do them!