We as Women

I should be sleeping…but in my head a million things are going by. Worries about things at work, worried about if I have to go to jury duty next week. Of all the crap going on right now, you would think we would not have jury duty…but it’s 2020…so no surprise.

Today, was a beautiful and productive day…but it left me with spare time to catch up on things I don’t get to do while I’m at work. While I’m folding laundry or doing MUNDANE tasks I like to listen to certain things on social media…and the overwhelming majority of influencers were talking about women…and the conversation was not complimentary.

It seems in all our spare time…and being home now more than ever…many of us have decided to take that time and use our words for evil.

I’ve seen it a hundred times…even have had some rude comments to me with just my hand full of followers…and I’m amazed at it every time. I’ve seen people ask for advice on if they should hang a simple picture. So we as women decide that we need to tell them that not only is their picture ugly, but they need a new rug, a new light fixture and probably should build a new house.

I’ve seen women bear their souls and then immediately be attacked…they are fat, need to lose weight. Their eyes are too close together…how much money do they make being an influencer? Some of them are told they are bad moms…and I’m just amazed.

Thankfully, I’m not an influencer…because right now I’m not sure I could handle it.

I’ve become that woman…I no longer look very far for friends…unless I grew up with you…I’m not really gonna trust you. I only trust the women I work in the trenches with. You want to know a woman who won’t hurt you or let you down? Look for the ones that are busy serving. Look for the ones who wake up each day ready to fight for others…that’s who you want on your team.

I have no patience for women who come and complain to me about people who are mean to them, that disappoint them and let them down…and then on social media they build up that same person.

I’m 46, and I still am amazed at how we as women are our own worst enemy. We seem to be upset at people who succeed. Women who seem to have it all we say we hate. Women who struggle we seem to delight in their frustrations. We have groups where we actually make fun of people and what they do and how they live? We sit around and have an opinion on every single thing that every woman does. If she’s successful…we hate her. If she’s a mess…we make fun of her. We don’t build up…we tear down. Then we wonder why so many of us need to be on medication.

Social media has been the biggest detriment on relationships. What could be used for good we have now used against us. We value our worth on the opinion of strangers…trust me….I’m guilty too.

We don’t have real relationships…because we are too tired to. We don’t trust anyone. I’ve gotten to the point that I don’t text people that much because I’m afraid how and why it will be used against me. What In the world is that all about?

I think the age group that seems to be the happiest, is the 60ish age group on up. They seem to have real relationships. They don’t spend a lot of time on the social media platforms. They talk to each other at church. They stop at the grocery store and restaurants. They hug each other…compliment each other on outfits and hair. They have coffee and visits at the hair dressers. They miss each other and tell each other so…They care about good books and good food. They have incredible stories…and wise advice on many subjects.

My age group is stressed and have their phones going off over and over again. We are complete slaves to it. Today was my day off. I answered no less than 20 texts and 8 phone calls. I did payroll and schedules and had it all completed before 10 am. I had social media plans for my staff to do for the entire week…and then I had more emails to send…more things to post on social media. Tomorrow I meet with vendors and bookkeeper to help me…and the list goes on and on. Adult children call as soon as the job obligations are done and then I need to check the homework and schooling of the homeschool child. House needs, we need to eat and menu planning…and taking care of my elderly parents….and did I tell you , I might have jury duty😔😔😔.

If your thinking I have a solution, I don’t…I just have a plan for the way I’m gonna live.

First, I’m gonna go outside…and have nature give me the cure all. So far it’s working!

Then I’m gonna keep getting better at my hobbies …

Then, I’m gonna do some things that I enjoy…like decorating and painting….

Then, I’m gonna do some clowning when people ask me….

Then, I’m gonna be the one you can count on. The one that when she says she’s gonna show up…she will. I’m gonna be the one that gives you compliments…because we all need that. When I think you look awesome or did awesome…I’m gonna tell you.

When someone speaks badly of you…I’m gonna nip it in the bud. I’m gonna be the woman…that you know where you stand. The one that isn’t two faced…the one that does what she feels because she knows it is right. The one who speaks truth. The one who seeks justice for those that are treated badly. The one that calls out the liars, the one that seeks truth and what is right. The one who calls out others when they have wronged you. The one who creates boundaries for those that constantly take advantage. The one who is a safe place for you to lay your burdens. I have a few of these women in my life…and I hope you do to. They are out there…you can’t always see their superhero capes…but they have them…and they are real.

Where do you fit? Are you the woman sitting around spewing hate and lies about others? Are you the one that can’t stand to do anything but sit around and gossip? I can’t imagine that your truly happy…today could be your day..to make a change!