Distracted

Yesterday I ended up having to work the entire day. We were very busy and by the time we went home I was exhausted. Today, I felt much more like myself. I got up and ran some errands, got my daughter from work and then my husband and I went to a place I have never been.

I haven’t been anywhere really for over a week….and I’m not even a fan of Reuben sandwiches but this Reuben was the best I have ever had. My absolute favorite thing is to find hole in the wall places that are quirky and have amazing food. This place definitely fit the bill.

We then went to get some coffee at one of our local favorite coffee shops….

We then went car shopping because we have this on our radar…..I am aware that this sounds like the most boring weekend in the world….but when for the last month you have had three procedures and one surgery…it felt like the most amazing day ever.

I have had dark days….it is hard to go through this….and I have learned who has my back and who doesn’t.

Twenty three years ago my first husband died in a car accident. At the time my son was two. I was dealing with the shock…and I simply will spare you the details of what transpired at his funeral but it was basically LifeTime material.

There are a few things I remember….my friend who picked out my clothes to wear and my sons and ironed them. She asked me when I had eaten and reminded to do so. She helped me pick out music….she intervened on my behalf in an event that no one should ever have to do. I have another friend who is no longer this side of heaven, and he and his wife were at the funeral….and there were some shenanigans goin on and I remember him looking at me….like….are you good? Do you want me to intervene? I remember my friends taking my son to the pumpkin patch….I remember people coming with Christmas cookies for my son to decorate..

This time i had a friend bring a huge dinner because she wanted us to have enough food to get through the weekend. I had a friend send me pajamas that button up that were so soft. Clown friends that sent me packages to make me smile, and special lotion to help through radiation. I have been sent cards, received texts and flowers from my kids, help with bandage changes …and a fun shirt to wear first day of radiation. I will not forget those who helped.

I will never ask for help or for dinner….and those that know me well know that. If you know me…you know to just do it.

These are things that I am trying to remember:

1. Never tell someone to let you know if they need something…..

2. Do NOT assume someone else is taking care of it.

3. Just because it is not life threatening does not mean it is not scary…:

Everyone likes to feel they are loved and appreciated especially when they are dealing with terrifying news

I know that I will change how I treat others